love advice

Choose love in the face of fear and hate. Getting involved when protest isn’t an option.

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I feel like I’m taking crazy pills

And I’m probably not the only one.

I fucking wish we were taking crazy pills. Then we could all stop and realize that it was just a nightmare.

Go back to bed sweetie everything’s gonna be alright.

But it’s not a crazy, horrible, fucked up nightmare. It’s crazy, horrible, fucked up reality.

Last week I made the decision to write about Love on Mondays. But today I just want to crawl back to bed and forget about it all. Unfortunately shutting it out won’t make it go away. We need to choose love.

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I’m nervous about telling my family I’m getting a vasectomy

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Dear Love Drive,

I’m nervous about telling my family I’m getting a vasectomy, or anyone for that matter.

I think I’ll be looked down upon in society and may not find partners interested if I’m not able to have a child.

I’m wondering what others experience or thoughts are… and if one “has” to tell their family?

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Is your new relationship the ‘real deal’? Does it pass the baseline test?

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I’ve fallen in love a few times in my life

More if you count high school. I don’t. Puppy love. I didn’t know what I was doing back then. I still don’t but I’m OK with it now. Everything’s going to be alright. I’m at peace with not knowing. It’s freeing not to know.

My relationships all ended for good reasons. Don’t most relationships end for good reasons? I’ll have to think about that one.

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How Should I Learn To Get Into Dating?

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Dear Love Drive,

How should I learn to get into dating?

I have only had 3 first dates at the age of 27. Being honest (and polite) seems to disqualify me.

I have a career and the physical items down. Home, car, exotic pets even. I do go out and have a few varied friend groups. Hobbies beyond day to day chores.

I do have a life, just no one else in it.

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Does having sex with him too soon put me on the slut list?

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Dear Love Drive, 

Does having sex too soon with a man automatically put me on the slut list?

I met a guy out dancing a few weeks ago.

He was laying it on pretty thick but he was so charming and made me laugh. We had such a sweet connection. We didn’t sleep together that night despite his multiple attempts but we did end up sleeping together a few days later and the sex was phenomenal. 

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