Hi, I'm Shaun.
My friends always used to ask me for relationship advice. I became great at giving it, and not always so great at living it.
For years, people brought me their messy relationship questions: when to define the relationship, how to know if someone likes you, how to ask for what you need. I didn’t judge, and I kept their secrets. Meanwhile, my own love life was a mess. I fumbled through one relationship after another, often bringing more pain and confusion than love and joy.
Growing up, the people closest to me called me “too sensitive.” I never knew what to do with all my emotions, so I was clumsy with them. Somewhere along the way I learned that feeling a lot isn’t a weakness — it’s a strength, if you do the work to make sense of it. So I did the work. Therapy, sobriety, years of it, and I’m still in it weekly. Everything didn’t magically get better. I fucked up plenty along the way. Some say I still do. But slowly, my relationships got better and healthier, and I got obsessed with understanding why.
