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The greatest hits.

Ten years of writing about sex, love, and intimacy. These are some of my greatest hits. Enjoy, and thank you for taking the time.

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What women wish you knew about oral sex

A love coach's five-step guide to being great at it.
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How Mom taught me to (almost) always wear a condom

My mom was terrified that I'd get someone pregnant in college. She said one thing to me in college that…
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My boyfriend shared private naked photos with a stranger. What now?

Dear Love Drive, My partner has been exchanging naked photos and having lewd conversation with people on the internet. Can…

From the newsletter

The twelve most-read essays on the Substack, where I write the more personal stuff.

Apr 2025

I gave happy-ending massages to women—for a year

Seven lessons from a year of erotic touch
Jun 2024

Ten things I look for in a partner

AKA ten things I want to love about you
Aug 2024

The worst year of my life

Losing two big loves, nearly breaking my back, and getting robbed, all in a few months.
Oct 2024

I’m done looking for love

On giving up, endless crushes, and solo polyamory.
Sep 2024

Longing for love but lost in fear

My fear of intimacy, turning 42 and what’s blocking me from love.
Jan 2025

The overwhelming comfort of being single

On my relationship history, my disorganized attachment style, and finding someone to help me unpack my baggage.
Jun 2024

Ten reasons dating me will be a nightmare

A list of qualities that might give you the ick.
May 2024

When your partner can’t — or won’t — meet your needs

And your three options for moving forward, including leaving the relationship
Nov 2024

My struggle with depression

On starting over, my move to LA, and current emotional landscape.
May 2025

10 things I look for in a lover

How to be great at sex
Jul 2025

My therapist’s advice for my love problem

Three things that I learned from my latest heartbreak
Jul 2024

What I’m struggling with these days

The six things currently keeping me up at night

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