Dating Unavailable People Will Drive You Crazy

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People can be unavailable for different reasons.

Maybe they’re not available for the kind of relationship you’re looking for. They might want casual short term dating and you’re looking for something more serious.

Maybe they’re unavailable for your kind of relationship style. Some folks need constant communication and others prefer a lighter touch.

Or they might be unavailable because they’re just not interested in you and you’re not picking up the hints.

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What I Learned From My Dog Roger About Love

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Two and a half years ago, I started looking for a dog

Single again, my girlfriend at the time and I had just broken up. It happened on my birthday over fancy pizza in Oakland. Some birthdays you remember, some you forget. I won’t forget this one.

I’m not sure what happened.  She wanted to be in love. I loved her, but I wasn’t in love anymore. It was sad. I still love her.

Both my most recent ex girlfriends had dogs.

I’d dog sit occasionally, and loved having them around. There’s nothing quite like a dog greeting you at the door after you get home. It’s nice to always have someone to go on a walk with, and someone to cuddle with at night.

Also, I was lonely, single, and sad.

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Comparing yourself to others is a losing proposition. Do this instead for increased gratitude

There’s one person you should be comparing yourself to every 6 months and it’s not Elon Musk

I had a neighbor back in the Bay Area

He had it all figured out, or at least I thought he did.

Nice girlfriend who he eventually married. Nice house which he eventually remodeled. Founder at one successful startup. Then founder at another. Money in the bank.

He has two beautiful kids and vacations in Hawaii. He’s a wood worker and gardener, and brews his own kombucha. Stays fit through surfing and mountain biking, and he’s really good at both.

You get the idea. He makes the most out of life. He’s good at life. More than that; he excels at it. 

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Maintaining emotional sanity when it all comes crumbling down

On Mondays I write about love, on Tuesdays dating, and on Wednesdays I write about sex. But, you’re not going to get sex tips today.

Actually, that’s not true. You’ll get ONE sex tip.

Here, you can have it right now.

Today’s Wednesday Sex Tip of the Day

Have sex today.

That’s your sex tip. Do you have someone in your life you could be having sex with today?

Great, have sex with them. It’s gonna feel awesome.

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Get rid of your job, your house, and your girlfriend to make room for something new

Figure out what you want and when to walk away

I’d wanted to quit for years

In 2010 I found myself depressed, single, and working for a company I didn’t want to be working for anymore.

I worked the phones at Yahoo! for 5 years as a sales guy. My favorite definition of ‘sales guy’ comes from a snippet of writing I saved years ago from someone’s Tumblr page. Author unknown but I’m still looking.

He’s also a Sales Guy, it’s soon obvious, bestowed at birth with an intangible, infallible excess of charm and the compulsion to use it on the most proximate person to him at all times. I’m envious, as always. If he kept a blog like this it would be far more interesting than mine—not to mention syndicated at a dollar a word.

I didn’t feel like a charming sales guy anymore. My soul had shriveled to the size of a raisin. I was miserable and had wanted to quit for 3 years.

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