Dating with low self-esteem
Three questions this week:How do you get out there and date when you feel like shit about yourself? How do you get over rejection fatigue? And: I can’t ever orgasm with a man, I think I’m in my head too…
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Herpes, hemorrhoids, and uncertainty
Three questions this week, and I get personal on all of them.Should you put an HSV2 diagnosis in your dating profile? I’ve had herpes for about five years, so I’ll tell you what’s actually happened to my dating life, what…
Is this a no?
I'm tired. This house renovation is taking a lot out of me, and I'm really looking forward to having more time and energy for the things I love. Including sitting down and having these conversations with you.Today, I've got a…
Why he can't stay hard (and why he won't talk about it)
Joe called in from Spain. She's 48, dating younger men, and she's noticed a pattern."I thought it was me. I thought it was a desirability thing, and I took it personally."She isn't the problem.We get into whether erectile dysfunction is…
How to get over heartbreak (you don't, you move through it)
I don't think heartbreak is something we get over. It's something we move through. This episode is built around your questions: "I've cried in public more than once; should I just stay home?" (Fuck no.) "How do I stop ruminating…
Ghosting, dental dams, and sharing myself with you
I’m back with new episodes, and I’m really happy to be here. The house isn’t ready yet, but I’m feeling better and I have a lot to share with you.Today, I’m letting you in on a little of that life…
My first sex party (replay)
In this 2019 replay, I tell the story of my first real sex party and then the woman I met that night joins me to share her side.It’s explicit, funny, tender, and ultimately a story about attraction, assumptions, communication, and…
(Replay) Mismatched libidos with Kai Werder
(Replay from 2020)What happens when one person wants sex more often than the other?In this conversation with sex educator Kai Werder, we talk about mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, how to talk about sex without pressure, and why intimacy…
(Replay) The year I gave erotic massages
I'm sharing some of my favorite episodes throughout September, and this replay is a peek into a part of my life I don't talk about very often: my time giving erotic massage to women in San Francisco. A friend asks me…
Welcome back September
I’ve missed being here. The last month has taken me somewhere I wasn’t quite expecting, and I wanted to check in and tell you a little about where I’ve been.This week is a little life update on what I’ve been…