Life

5 Ways to Deal with Crushing Disappointment

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Sooner or later, people are going to disappoint us, it’s only a matter of time

They’re only human after all

I used to date a woman who was always late. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t show up on time for me.

One day she was late for our date because she got held up cleaning the piano. Another time she showed up three hours late because she ran into a trio of banjo players at the park. And another time she cancelled at the last minute because she took LSD on a sailboat with some friends.

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Comparing yourself to others is a losing proposition. Do this instead for increased gratitude

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There’s one person you should be comparing yourself to every 6 months and it’s not Elon Musk

I had a neighbor back in the Bay Area

He had it all figured out, or at least I thought he did.

Nice girlfriend who he eventually married. Nice house which he eventually remodeled. Founder at one successful startup. Then founder at another. Money in the bank.

He has two beautiful kids and vacations in Hawaii. He’s a wood worker and gardener, and brews his own kombucha. Stays fit through surfing and mountain biking, and he’s really good at both.

You get the idea. He makes the most out of life. He’s good at life. More than that; he excels at it. 

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Maintaining emotional sanity when it all comes crumbling down

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On Mondays I write about love, on Tuesdays dating, and on Wednesdays I write about sex. But, you’re not going to get sex tips today.

Actually, that’s not true. You’ll get ONE sex tip.

Here, you can have it right now.

Today’s Wednesday Sex Tip of the Day

Have sex today.

That’s your sex tip. Do you have someone in your life you could be having sex with today?

Great, have sex with them. It’s gonna feel awesome.

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Get rid of your job, your house, and your girlfriend to make room for something new

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Figure out what you want and when to walk away

I’d wanted to quit for years

In 2010 I found myself depressed, single, and working for a company I didn’t want to be working for anymore.

I worked the phones at Yahoo! for 5 years as a sales guy. My favorite definition of ‘sales guy’ comes from a snippet of writing I saved years ago from someone’s Tumblr page. Author unknown but I’m still looking.

He’s also a Sales Guy, it’s soon obvious, bestowed at birth with an intangible, infallible excess of charm and the compulsion to use it on the most proximate person to him at all times. I’m envious, as always. If he kept a blog like this it would be far more interesting than mine—not to mention syndicated at a dollar a word.

I didn’t feel like a charming sales guy anymore. My soul had shriveled to the size of a raisin. I was miserable and had wanted to quit for 3 years.

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Why I Used Porn and How I Quit Watching

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I use porn to change the way I feel.

I’ve been quitting lots of things lately. Online dating, eating meat, baked goods and desserts, casual sex (sort of), and watching porn.

I go in and out with regards to watching porn. I have had periods in my life when I intentionally didn’t use porn, times when I just wasn’t particularly interested in it, and other times when I would watch it several times a day to help with masturbation and orgasm.

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