dating advice

Get rid of your job, your house, and your girlfriend to make room for something new

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Figure out what you want and when to walk away

I’d wanted to quit for years

In 2010 I found myself depressed, single, and working for a company I didn’t want to be working for anymore.

I worked the phones at Yahoo! for 5 years as a sales guy. My favorite definition of ‘sales guy’ comes from a snippet of writing I saved years ago from someone’s Tumblr page. Author unknown but I’m still looking.

He’s also a Sales Guy, it’s soon obvious, bestowed at birth with an intangible, infallible excess of charm and the compulsion to use it on the most proximate person to him at all times. I’m envious, as always. If he kept a blog like this it would be far more interesting than mine—not to mention syndicated at a dollar a word.

I didn’t feel like a charming sales guy anymore. My soul had shriveled to the size of a raisin. I was miserable and had wanted to quit for 3 years.

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I’m nervous about telling my family I’m getting a vasectomy

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Dear Love Drive,

I’m nervous about telling my family I’m getting a vasectomy, or anyone for that matter.

I think I’ll be looked down upon in society and may not find partners interested if I’m not able to have a child.

I’m wondering what others experience or thoughts are… and if one “has” to tell their family?

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Does ‘no strings attached sex’ exist? Here’s what people said and 4 tips on how to have it.

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The Brunch Standard

Yesterday, I asked friends on social media if ‘no strings attached sex’ existed.

The answer was a resounding…maybe.

Just like the current state of affairs in the United States, we are a nation divided when it comes to whether ‘no strings attached sex’ exists. Can people fully detach when engaging in the most intimate of activities together? I received 42 replies letting me know.

Let’s dive in.

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How Should I Learn To Get Into Dating?

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Dear Love Drive,

How should I learn to get into dating?

I have only had 3 first dates at the age of 27. Being honest (and polite) seems to disqualify me.

I have a career and the physical items down. Home, car, exotic pets even. I do go out and have a few varied friend groups. Hobbies beyond day to day chores.

I do have a life, just no one else in it.

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Does having sex with him too soon put me on the slut list?

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Dear Love Drive, 

Does having sex too soon with a man automatically put me on the slut list?

I met a guy out dancing a few weeks ago.

He was laying it on pretty thick but he was so charming and made me laugh. We had such a sweet connection. We didn’t sleep together that night despite his multiple attempts but we did end up sleeping together a few days later and the sex was phenomenal. 

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