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What I Learned From My Dog Roger About Love

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Two and a half years ago, I started looking for a dog

Single again, my girlfriend at the time and I had just broken up. It happened on my birthday over fancy pizza in Oakland. Some birthdays you remember, some you forget. I won’t forget this one.

I’m not sure what happened.  She wanted to be in love. I loved her, but I wasn’t in love anymore. It was sad. I still love her.

Both my most recent ex girlfriends had dogs.

I’d dog sit occasionally, and loved having them around. There’s nothing quite like a dog greeting you at the door after you get home. It’s nice to always have someone to go on a walk with, and someone to cuddle with at night.

Also, I was lonely, single, and sad.

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Comparing yourself to others is a losing proposition. Do this instead for increased gratitude

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There’s one person you should be comparing yourself to every 6 months and it’s not Elon Musk

I had a neighbor back in the Bay Area

He had it all figured out, or at least I thought he did.

Nice girlfriend who he eventually married. Nice house which he eventually remodeled. Founder at one successful startup. Then founder at another. Money in the bank.

He has two beautiful kids and vacations in Hawaii. He’s a wood worker and gardener, and brews his own kombucha. Stays fit through surfing and mountain biking, and he’s really good at both.

You get the idea. He makes the most out of life. He’s good at life. More than that; he excels at it. 

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Maintaining emotional sanity when it all comes crumbling down

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On Mondays I write about love, on Tuesdays dating, and on Wednesdays I write about sex. But, you’re not going to get sex tips today.

Actually, that’s not true. You’ll get ONE sex tip.

Here, you can have it right now.

Today’s Wednesday Sex Tip of the Day

Have sex today.

That’s your sex tip. Do you have someone in your life you could be having sex with today?

Great, have sex with them. It’s gonna feel awesome.

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Choose love in the face of fear and hate. Getting involved when protest isn’t an option.

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I feel like I’m taking crazy pills

And I’m probably not the only one.

I fucking wish we were taking crazy pills. Then we could all stop and realize that it was just a nightmare.

Go back to bed sweetie everything’s gonna be alright.

But it’s not a crazy, horrible, fucked up nightmare. It’s crazy, horrible, fucked up reality.

Last week I made the decision to write about Love on Mondays. But today I just want to crawl back to bed and forget about it all. Unfortunately shutting it out won’t make it go away. We need to choose love.

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How to go from ex to friend in 5 steps

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Let’s be friends

Ouch.

If you’ve ever heard these words you know how hard they are to hear.

They’re also hard to say especially if you deeply care for the other person and still want them in your life. I’ve found myself on both the receiving end and the….opposite of the receiving end. Either way it’s gonna be hard.

How do we switch from sharing the same bed to having lunch every now and then? There can be so much pain at the end of a relationship. Is it really possible to transition to friendship?

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