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Make Love Not Porn

The Make Love Not Porn Podcast Episode

Sarah Beale’s full-time job is to watch people have sex. That’s because she’s the curator at Makelovenotporn.tv, a user-generated collection of videos of real people having real sex.

This is not pornography and the videos are not performances. Make Love Not Porn believes that the sex we have in our everyday life is the hottest sex there is, and I completely agree.

We discuss what makes great sex great, how you can dip your town into making your own real sex videos, and the beauty and freedom of releasing your sex videos online for all to see.

The Make Love Not Porn Show Notes

Sarah Beall can be found on Twitter and Instagram. Please don't be shy about contacting Sarah if you have any questions, she can be contact via email at: [email protected]

Make Love Not Porn can be found at their website, on Twitter, Facebook, and on Instagram.

Watch real amateur porn at Dan Savage's Hump Fest

Who is Cindy Gallop, the founder of Make Love Not Porn? 

This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios. 

The Make Love Not Porn Transcript

Shaun Galanos: Could you please introduce yourself?

Sarah Beall: My name is Sarah Beall and I'm the curator for a website called Make Love Not Porn.tv.

Shaun Galanos: Can you tell me about the work that you do and how you got to do what you're doing today?

Sarah Beall: Make Love Not Porn is a curated, real world sex video sharing site where people share the sex they have in their everyday lives without performing for the camera, in a way that's contextualized, consensual and porn cliche free.

The people who share videos on our site have usually never shared a video of themselves having sex before.

We have a profit-sharing business model where people pay $5 right now to rent a video for three weeks and then we split the profit 50/50 with our creators or as we call them our Make Love Not Porn stars.

We are the social sex revolution.

Our mission is to get people to talk about sex in the real world. We're not anti-porn we're pro-sex, pro-porn, pro-knowing the difference.

Curation isn't about censorship but it's about creating a space online where people can celebrate and watch the messy awesome humanness that happens and is a part of real world sex.

Shaun Galanos: Yeah, I like to say that sex is often messy and awkward and we just don't talk about it or share it or see it in videos.

Sarah Beall: When you actually watch real world sex, it's very very different from what you usually see in mainstream porn and hopefully, if we're doing our job right a lot closer to your own experience in a way that helps you feel better about your body, your real world body and your real world awkwardness.

Shaun Galanos: What's the difference between real-world sex and porn sex? How does it differ?

Sarah Beall: We are fans of feminist porn. So we are not feminist porn.

We are an entirely new category that we call social sex.

We're what you would share on other social platforms like Facebook and YouTube if they allowed sexually expressive content.

Our competition isn't porn, and again, we're not anti-porn.

But the truth of the matter is that a lot of mainstream porn is produced according to a kind of rigid and wrote formula of positions and camera angles.

Straight porn in particular, follows a pretty standard trajectory of oral sex for a man, five different positions, 40 minutes later he comes on her face and it's over.

That's not really how most people have real-world sex.

Shaun Galanos: And she's happy about getting come on her face.

Sarah Beall: Yeah, exactly. Make Love Not Porn began because my boss, Cindy Gallop, she was a high-flying ad exec in her late 40's, and she was dating younger men.

She discovered through her own direct personal experience that the otherwise lovely young men that she was dating were pulling out the porn moves in the bedroom.

After this had happened to her multiple times, she sort of had an aha-moment. It was like,

"Oh, people are learning about how to have sex from porn. This guy thinks that what he's doing with me in bed is what I want."

Because nobody is talking about what it really means to be good in bad, there's so much free online porn plus like the sex education today, isn't that great? People are learning how to be good in bed from porn.

She decided to set out and change that through a very basic site called Make Love Not Porn.com which had infographics and it boiled down to just talk to your partner about how you want to have sex with them. Just talk to your partner.

So, examples of the infographics were, "In the porn world all women love it when men come on their face; in the real world, some women like it, some women don't, talk to your partner, it's entirely up to personal choice," and so on.

There were also ones about, "In the porn world, all women like to be called sluts and whores and in the real world, some people might not want to be called the slut during sex, again entirely up to personal choice."

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Shaun Galanos

Shaun Galanos is The Love Drive. He believes that talking about sex and love isn't always easy, but it doesn't have to be awkward. He lives in Montreal.