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Essays on love, sex, and being a person.

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Jul 24, 2026

To the best rope gun I know

A letter to my friend, Josh Kalven

Jul 16, 2026

Most men are bad at eating pussy. Here’s how to be great

A love coach's five-step guide to being great at it.

May 21, 2026

Herpes is just a skin rash with Debbie Barish, NP

A conversation about herpes, shame, and why most of what hurts about a diagnosis isn’t the virus.

May 4, 2026

Peter Pan, grief, and the men who won't grow up with Laura Griffiths

A conversation with somatic therapist (and my dear friend)Laura Griffiths about the masks men wear to stay safe.

Apr 9, 2026

Debunking bedroom myths: squirting, pegging, monogamy & more with Claire Perelman

A new episode of The Love Drive podcast is ready for ya.

Mar 26, 2026

Men, masculinity & the loneliness epidemic with Therapy Jeff

A new episode of The Love Drive podcast is ready for ya.

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