Why he can't stay hard (and why he won't talk about it)

Joe called in from Spain. She's 48, dating younger men, and she's noticed a pattern.

"I thought it was me. I thought it was a desirability thing, and I took it personally."

She isn't the problem.

We get into whether erectile dysfunction is an age thing, what's actually going on mechanically, why an erection can be an early warning sign for your heart, condoms, SSRIs, sleep, booze, nicotine, exercise, and the stuff that actually helps versus the stuff the internet sells you.

I also talk about my own libido, or lack thereof!

What should women understand about men and their bodies? And what's the kindest possible way to bring it up without it landing as shame?

Here's the short version: If you're a man and this is happening, it's your job to raise it. Stop making her do it.

It was never about the erection. It's about what happens when someone tries to talk to you about it. Do you shut down, get defensive, retaliate? Or can you say, "Thank you for telling me. I don't know how to talk about this, and I want to try"?

Only about 15% of my audience is men, so the guy who needs this probably isn't going to find it on his own. Send it to him. Your partner, your brother, your friend.

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Want to go deeper? My full conversation with sex and relationship coach Laura Ramadei on performance anxiety, porn, and erectile dysfunction is on my Substack.

Listen to the full conversation here:
https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/replay-porn-addiction-and-ed-with

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