I have a hard time meeting women because I’m not that attractive. I’m just worried that I’m too ugly to date. Is there anything I can do to make myself more attractive?
I Asked Women What They Wanted
Last month I asked women what they looked for in a guy.
This is what they said:
Humor. Passion. Charm. Humor. Confidence. Humor. Flexibility. Independence. Confidence. Humor.
Not one said looks. Sure, they could've been lying.
And probably a few of them might've put good looking as their second choice. But for the most part, people want to surround themselves with good human beings.
No one likes an asshole, no matter how hot they are.
A Good Looking Asshole Is Still An Asshole
Appearance is important, but not as important as being a kind person.
A beautiful asshole might get more first dates than you, but you’ll need to be more than good looking to get a second date.
Women aren’t interested in dating assholes. We're conditioned to think that women like bad boys and that good guys finish last, but that’s bullshit.
Smart and secure women don’t go for assholes. They lose interest at the first sign of asshole behavior.
Isn’t Everything Easier When You’re Good Looking?
Probably. Maybe. Does it matter? Do you want an easy life or a happy life?
You can’t change your face. Well, not without significant investment and dubious results. Remember Michael Jackson?
Being more attractive might make certain things more comfortable, but it’ll only get you so far in life.
And let's not forget that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Some women like tall, dark, and handsome men, others prefer a lanky blond. Some women go crazy for dudes with long hair, and others are more attracted to that big beautiful brain of yours.
Attraction has a lot more to do with you as a person than your physical appearance. But since you asked me what you can do to make yourself more attractive, I’m happy to oblige.
The Top 9 Ways To Make Yourself More Attractive
1. Health is more important than beauty
Eat well and exercise daily. Get a minimum of 1 hour of exercise per day, more if you can.
Run, lift weights, do yoga, ride a bike, swim. Too busy? Get up one hour earlier and get it over with in the morning.
Cut down on alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, and other harmful substances. Eat more veggies. Your body will thank me.
2. Increase your confidence
Confidence is sexy as hell.
You can do and ask for anything as long as you do it with confidence. Easier said than done, sure, but you can do it. You can do anything if you're willing to work for it.
3. Be funny
Some people are born funny, for the rest of us, we have to learn. Not sure how?
Do open mic stand up comedy. It’s terrifying and will force you to become funny.
Once you bomb, you’ll never want to bomb again, and I guarantee you’ll do whatever it takes to become funny.
4. Become more interesting
So you’re not attractive? You’re not alone.
You can’t change your physical appearance much, but you can make yourself more interesting. Do interesting things to meet interesting people.
Join activities. Pick up a hobby. Become an expert in a skill or trade. Master a new sport.
Being skillful will make you more interesting, and you'll become more confident and more attractive.
5. Clean up your act
Develop a simple grooming routine and stick to it. Dress well. Doesn’t have to be expensive but it has to be well put together.
Upgrade your living situation. Don’t spend a ton of money; remove clutter from your home. Uncluttered spaces look clean, and clean is attractive.
6. Live altruistically
Spend time thinking about and helping others. Volunteer, often.
Do work that benefits more than just yourself. The more time you spend thinking about how you can help others, the less time you’ll spend thinking about yourself (and how unattractive you think you are).
Helping others is hot. Being selfish is not.
7. Learn to flirt (shamelessly)
Flirting is a skill like anything else. Develop it, and use it often.
Learn the difference between flirting and hitting on. Use the former on a daily basis and the latter never. Flirt with everyone, all the time. Make it second nature.
8. Dismiss the haters
Now and then you’ll run into a hater. Someone will put you down because of your looks.
Dismiss them. These people are jealous, insecure, and put down other people to make themselves feel better.
Happy, healthy, and secure people don’t insult other people. Spend less time with haters and more time with lovers.
9. Love The Shit Out Of Yourself
Cultivate as much self-love as possible.
There’s nothing selfish about self-love, it’s the most critical thing you can do for your health, and the health of those around you. People that love themselves can better love others.
Lovers are more attractive than haters.
It’s Not All About Being Hot And Sexy
You aren’t just your looks. You’re so much more than that. You’re a deliciously complex human being that has much more to offer the world than your physical characteristics.
Show us how beautiful you can be by being kind, interesting, funny, smart, and charming. Make us laugh with your jokes, teach us something that you’re passionate about, and make us blush with your witty charm.
Be kind to others, and at the same time, be ever so sweet and loving to yourself. People won't remember you for how good looking you were, but by the impact of your actions on others, and the positive change that you brought to those around you.