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Free Love Advice: Should I Stop Cheating?

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Today, I spoke with three people that were struggling with love affairs.

How to get over one, how to get out of one, and how to leave an abusive relationship.

When I think of infidelity, I think of Esther Perel's book, "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" and it's certainly helped me reframe how I think of infidelity.

Most couples that discover infidelity in their partnership decide to stick with their partner. Esther likes to ask, "Your first marriage is over. Would you like to create a second one together?"

EP29 Love Affair

Photo credit: The talented Riaz Oozeer

I spoke with a woman who's in love with two men.

At first I thought she wanted help with her open relationship, and then I realized that she'd be seeing both men for over a year without either of them knowing anything about the other. 

Having an affair brings her a lot of pain. I could see if in her face and hear it in her voice. I'm not sure either of her relationships will last, but she's determined to try. 

EP29 Love Affair

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• Why a period of "no contact" is the best thing for your recent breakup

• How having an affair can lead to pain and heartache (sort of obvious)

• Why you don't need to forgive someone who cheats on you

Notes and Resources

Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity is a must-read if you're dealing with infidelity in your life. 

This show has been produced by Shaun Galanos with help from Gilford Street Studios. 

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Shaun Galanos

Shaun Galanos is The Love Drive. He believes that talking about sex and love isn't always easy, but it doesn't have to be awkward. He lives in Montreal.