Always the initiator, and teaching a man in bed

Two questions this week.

The first is from Veronica in South Carolina, who’s always the one who texts first, has never had an adult friendship last more than five years, and wants to know if something’s wrong with her. I have a confession. I’m the initiator too.

The second is from a listener whose new partner has a lot less experience than she does, and who’s trying to work out how to teach him what she likes without becoming his coach. I get into the yes/no/maybe list, which is the best tool I know for this, and why that conversation is probably going to be awkward and why that’s fine.

Also in here: why there was no video last week, what three months of renovation does to a person, and the time someone recognized me at a hot spring while I was naked.

I’m in LA this week for Feeld’s Mindfuck forum, on a panel about masculinity. I’ll tell you about it next week, along with a question about dating while caring for an aging parent that I’m looking forward to answering. 

Mentions:

Autostraddle yes/no/maybe list

Yana Tallon-Hicks, Redefining the Relationship

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