Why Pegging Is Awesome And Nothing To Be Ashamed Of

Pegging

I’m a straight male and I recently found out I'm really into pegging. 

However I'm ashamed of my desires because most people I have talked to label it as being a closet gay or wanting to be feminine.

I think they may be right about me. How can I accept myself?

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Are You Out Of The Loop And Unfamiliar With Pegging?

Are you in the dark when it comes to pegging? Oh so curious but no idea what we're talking about? We'll read on my friend!

According to our good friends at wikipedia, pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating the man's anus with a strap-on dildo.

It can be a lot of fun. Trust me.

Shame Shouldn't Prevent Us From Enjoying Ourselves

I'm going to quote some Brené Brown today, because she's the best, I love her work, and she's a shame researcher so she knows what she's talking about.

Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough. ~ Brené Brown

If you're not familiar with her work, I highly recommend you start off by watching her 20 minute video on shame. It's amazing.

We wouldn't have shame if society didn't tell us what it thinks is right and wrong. We feel shame when society tells us we've done something wrong.

I want to tell you that you are good enough, and that you've done nothing wrong.

You Really Like To Receive Anal Sex, So What?

There's nothing inherently gay about receiving anal pleasure. The anus is chocked full of nerve endings that often produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated a certain way.

Also, let's not forget that your prostate, also know as the male G Spot, is located deep inside your rectum. I'm not surprised you like receiving anal sex. Lots of people who try it, do.

It doesn't matter whether you're attracted to men, women, or big bird; physiologically speaking, which gender you're attracted to doesn't have any effect on which sensations bring you pleasure.

You like the sensation of something sliding in and out of your ass. Some people don't figure it out until their first prostate exam, you're ahead of the curve!

Society doesn't reward sexual exploration, it punishes it. It calls us sluts, perverts, weirdos, and sexual deviants in order to make us feel bad and separate us from 'normal' people.

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Looks fun to me

'Normal' Is A Button On A Washing Machine

There is no normal. You're no less normal than the straight guy that doesn't like the feeling of receiving anal sex. You have different preferences, and that's quite alright.

There's room for all sorts of sexual preferences in this world, and guaranteed you can find someone that likes to give it as much as you like to get it.

Society tells us that any man who likes their butthole played with must be gay.

Society can go fuck itself. In the butthole. And I hope it gets turned on, and then feels weird and confused about it.

Find Your People, And You Won't Be Alone

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive. ~ Brené Brown

Lots of people like to have their buttholes played with, and lots of people like to play with buttholes too.

Guys, girls, straight, gay, and everything in between and outside of. Big Bird is probably into it.

I bet some of those people that said you were too feminine or probably a closet gay like it too, but were too ashamed to tell you about it.

That's a real shame. We're not able to freely tell people what we like or show people who we are without fear of being judged and shamed.

We're getting better, but we're not there yet.

It's Not Abnormal To Have Feminine Qualities Or To Be Gay

Everyone has some feminine qualities and some masculine qualities, regardless of which gender they were born with. Some have more than others.

The feminine is often thought of as being more sensitive, intuitive, gentle, understanding, and compassionate. That all sounds really nice. There's nothing wrong with any 0f those qualities, and with bringing a little tenderness into this world. Sign me up.

I have feminine qualities. I blew that one dude that one time, and then those other dudes those other times. I wear little pink shorts sometimes for fun. I've definitely enjoyed pegging.

Here's The Story Of Giving My First Blowjob

Did I feel shame around it? At first, yes. Did I eventually get over it? Completely.

Did I learn anything in the process? Absolutely.

I learned that I still enjoy to wear little pink shorts sometimes, I don't love pegging but want to try it again, that I'm not super into giving men oral sex, and that I'd much prefer to have sex with women.

I wouldn't have known any of these things without experimenting and getting to know what I like and who I am.

So, Who Are You?

Are you a feminine straight guy or a closet gay?

Oh right, it doesn't matter.

You're someone who just found out that he loves receiving anal sex, and that's pretty awesome. You're getting to know yourself, and what you like.

Maybe you're gay. How amazing that you're figuring it now rather than later in life. Find safe people to talk about it to.

Maybe you're just a man with strong feminine qualities. Awesome. There are plenty of women who love men that aren't afraid to show their feminine side.

Trust me on this, being feminine won't affect your chances of attracting amazing women.

You showed a lot of courage today by asking your question.

Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen. ~ Brené Brown

You can't change who you are, feminine straight closet gay guy. And why would you want to?

You're perfect just the way you are. Thanks for showing up and letting yourself be seen.


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Shaun Galanos

Shaun Galanos is The Love Drive. He believes we all deserve love and works to help men (and women) develop more intimate relationships through honest and playful communication. He lives, writes, and makes videos in Montreal.

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