Category Archives for "Love"

March 20, 2017

The Be Happy 6 Step Plan for Lonely and Single People

lonely and single

My dog Roger and I gave free love advice to lonely and single people yesterday

The sun was out in Montreal and the temperature was bearable. It felt like spring. I like spring. Everything starts to thaw, including people’s desire to connect. Exciting.

I packed up my recording gear and my free love advice sign and headed up the mountain. The goal was to give free love advice to people at the top of Mont Royal. I had no idea I’d run into so many lonely and single people.Continue reading

February 27, 2017

What I Learned From My Dog Roger About Love

dog love

Two and a half years ago, I started looking for a dog

Single again, my girlfriend at the time and I had just broken up. It happened on my birthday over fancy pizza in Oakland. Some birthdays you remember, some you forget. I won’t forget this one.

I’m not sure what happened.  She wanted to be in love. I loved her, but I wasn’t in love anymore. It was sad. I still love her.

Both my most recent ex girlfriends had dogs.

I’d dog sit occasionally, and loved having them around. There’s nothing quite like a dog greeting you at the door after you get home. It’s nice to always have someone to go on a walk with, and someone to cuddle with at night.

Also, I was lonely, single, and sad.Continue reading

February 13, 2017

Stay out of Fantasyland, don’t talk about babies with your new partner. Do this instead.

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Hi, I’m Shaun. Let’s have babies, build a cabin together, and travel the world. It’ll be great. 

I’ve been there more times than I care to admit.

OK, it’s five. Five times.

Every woman I’ve been in a relationship with (5 so far), I fantasize about our future together. No matter how much I try to stay grounded in reality, when I first meet a new partner, my mind goes to the same place.

But I’m not alone in engaging in Fantasyland talk. Most of the time, my partner joins in. After 1 month of dating my crazy ex, we already had a short list of baby names picked out. We’d have two girls.

We’re not dating anymore, obviously, but if you’re curious, here’s the short list: Scout, Kirby, Lennon, Chase, Ariadne, and Maisy. That’s right, we’d be those kinds of people. 

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January 30, 2017

Choose love in the face of fear and hate. Getting involved when protest isn’t an option.

choose love

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills

And I’m probably not the only one.

I fucking wish we were taking crazy pills. Then we could all stop and realize that it was just a nightmare.

Go back to bed sweetie everything’s gonna be alright.

But it’s not a crazy, horrible, fucked up nightmare. It’s crazy, horrible, fucked up reality.

Last week I made the decision to write about Love on Mondays. But today I just want to crawl back to bed and forget about it all. Unfortunately shutting it out won’t make it go away. We need to choose love.Continue reading

January 17, 2017

Four things to do instead of cheating on your partner

cheating

I’ve never caught anyone cheating

Or rather, I don’t think I’ve been cheated on before. It’s not something people admit doing. It’s usually something you get caught doing. I’ve never caught anyone cheating on me. Then again, I never really looked for it. I assume good intentions. And I date good people.

There was one time I thought I was dating someone when I really wasn’t. She was sleeping around and gave me my first STI. I was young, I didn’t know any better. I know better now.Continue reading

January 9, 2017

I turned down free unlimited Business Class travel because I was lovesick and hopeless

the love drive

Pathetic

I was completely pathetic after the breakup. Still pinning for her. She wanted nothing to do with me. “Don’t contact me for 6 months” she said.

I flew to Europe to get away. Spending time abroad would make things better. It didn’t. I was hopelessly lovesick. Co-dependant. I couldn’t enjoy my time. I didn’t sleep well. “We’re gonna get back together” I thought. Continue reading