Category Archives for "Life"
It takes an incredible amount of hard work to be a human.
We’re doing great considering how much energy it takes to do everything we need to do in one day, let alone everything we want to do.
But sometimes no matter how hard we try, life is too damn overwhelming and there’s too much to do and it all comes crumbling down.
Do this when that happens.Continue reading
Sooner or later, people are going to disappoint us, it’s only a matter of time
They’re only human after all
I used to date a woman who was always late. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t show up on time for me.
One day she was late for our date because she got held up cleaning the piano. Another time she showed up three hours late because she ran into a trio of banjo players at the park. And another time she cancelled at the last minute because she took LSD on a sailboat with some friends.Continue reading
When you’re in the shit, it’s hard to see the light. Shit is pretty dark
Here’s a shitty thing or two
Some of my worst moments in the last 9 years:
Two of my friends were turning 40 last week, so we organized a long weekend in the sun. The plan: 15 of us would fly to Mexico, rent a casa on the water, and spend 4 days eating, sunning, and surfing.
40 year olds know how to get down.
I live in Montreal now, so I’ll jump on any opportunity to see my friends, especially if it means escaping the cold for a bit. Also, I was told there would be women wearing bikinis.
The trip was a slam dunk. Couldn’t have asked for any better. Except maybe, you know, I could have said less stupid things. Continue reading
It happened a few days ago at a talk I attended on feminism, organized by the Concordia University Part Time Faculty Association.
I’ll be honest with you, I’m a bad feminist. If I was asked to describe feminism at gunpoint I’d be hard pressed to come up with anything more eloquent than “equal rights for women, too!”
Hence me attending talks on feminism. Working on it.
Needless to say, I was out of my element. It’s easier to meet people when you’re feeling confident and comfortable, it’s another when you’re out there pushing your comfort zone.
Meeting strangers can be nerve wracking. No matter how much practice I get at meeting new people, I still feel awkward.Continue reading
He had it all figured out, or at least I thought he did.
Nice girlfriend who he eventually married. Nice house which he eventually remodeled. Founder at one successful startup. Then founder at another. Money in the bank.
He has two beautiful kids and vacations in Hawaii. He’s a wood worker and gardener, and brews his own kombucha. Stays fit through surfing and mountain biking, and he’s really good at both.
You get the idea. He makes the most out of life. He’s good at life. More than that; he excels at it. Continue reading
On Mondays I write about love, on Tuesdays dating, and on Wednesdays I write about sex. But, you’re not going to get sex tips today.
Actually, that’s not true. You’ll get ONE sex tip.
Here, you can have it right now.
Have sex today.
That’s your sex tip. Do you have someone in your life you could be having sex with today?
Great, have sex with them. It’s gonna feel awesome.Continue reading
In 2010 I found myself depressed, single, and working for a company I didn’t want to be working for anymore.
I worked the phones at Yahoo! for 5 years as a sales guy. My favorite definition of ‘sales guy’ comes from a snippet of writing I saved years ago from someone’s Tumblr page. Author unknown but I’m still looking.
He’s also a Sales Guy, it’s soon obvious, bestowed at birth with an intangible, infallible excess of charm and the compulsion to use it on the most proximate person to him at all times. I’m envious, as always. If he kept a blog like this it would be far more interesting than mine—not to mention syndicated at a dollar a word.
I didn’t feel like a charming sales guy anymore. My soul had shriveled to the size of a raisin. I was miserable and had wanted to quit for 3 years.Continue reading
I’m single in my thirties and I’m happy about it but I wasn’t always at peace with it. For years I struggled with wanting to find a girlfriend and spent countless hours looking for that special someone. Here’s how I went from desperation to being happy about being single in my thirties.
Halfway through a 6 month road trip, I quit Tinder. In Chattanooga to be exact. My plan was to drive from San Francisco to Montreal and to use Tinder and other dating apps along to way to see how women differ from state to state.
Let’s be honest – that didn’t happen. I used it like I’ve always used it . Because I was bored, lonely, horny, and sad. What a stellar combo.
Don’t get me wrong I’ve met amazing women on Tinder (SLC you know who you are). I don’t always use it to escape but that’s how I usually use it.