Category Archives for "Life"

April 3, 2017

Everyone You Know Is Going to Disappoint You

disappoints

Sooner or later, people are going to disappoint us, it’s only a matter of time

They’re only human after all

I used to date a woman who was always late. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t show up on time for me.

One day she was late for our date because she got held up cleaning the piano. Another time she showed up three hours late because she ran into a trio of banjo players at the park. And another time she cancelled at the last minute because she took LSD on a sailboat with some friends.Continue reading

March 13, 2017

It’s Hard to See the Big Picture When Life Sucks

big picture

When you’re in the shit, it’s hard to see the light. Shit is pretty dark

Here’s a shitty thing or two

Some of my worst moments in the last 9 years:

  • When I realized that I couldn’t stop drinking and using drugs, and that my life was fucked at the age of 25. I couldn’t go on like this.
  • When I found myself living in Panama, not speaking Spanish, totally alone, and trying to set up a hostel for motorcycle travelers. I was sad, frustrated, lonely, and desperate for sex. No one wanted anything to do with me.
  • When I was labeled a sexual predator after a job interview at a tech company because of what the company thought of The Love Drive. I spent months second guessing my life and thought about flushing The Love Drive down the toilet so I could be accepted by tech bros.Continue reading
February 21, 2017

Saying stupid things to women in male dominated spaces

stupid things

I’m pretty good at not saying stupid things to women in male dominated space. I still fuck it up though.

Let’s go, Mexico!

Two of my friends were turning 40 last week, so we organized a long weekend in the sun. The plan: 15 of us would fly to Mexico, rent a casa on the water, and spend 4 days eating, sunning, and surfing.

40 year olds know how to get down.

I live in Montreal now, so I’ll jump on any opportunity to see my friends, especially if it means escaping the cold for a bit. Also, I was told there would be women wearing bikinis.

The trip was a slam dunk. Couldn’t have asked for any better. Except maybe, you know, I could have said less stupid things. Continue reading

February 9, 2017

Charm School Friday: Make a friend by finding out three interesting things about them

I still get nervous when I have to meet strangers

It happened a few days ago at a talk I attended on feminism, organized by the Concordia University Part Time Faculty Association.

I’ll be honest with you, I’m a bad feminist. If I was asked to describe feminism at gunpoint I’d be hard pressed to come up with anything more eloquent than “equal rights for women, too!”

Hence me attending talks on feminism. Working on it.

Needless to say, I was out of my element. It’s easier to meet people when you’re feeling confident and comfortable, it’s another when you’re out there pushing your comfort zone.

Meeting strangers can be nerve wracking. No matter how much practice I get at meeting new people, I still feel awkward.Continue reading

February 6, 2017

Comparing yourself to others is a losing proposition. Do this instead for increased gratitude

comparing

There’s one person you should be comparing yourself to every 6 months and it’s not Elon Musk

I had a neighbor back in the Bay Area

He had it all figured out, or at least I thought he did.

Nice girlfriend who he eventually married. Nice house which he eventually remodeled. Founder at one successful startup. Then founder at another. Money in the bank.

He has two beautiful kids and vacations in Hawaii. He’s a wood worker and gardener, and brews his own kombucha. Stays fit through surfing and mountain biking, and he’s really good at both.

You get the idea. He makes the most out of life. He’s good at life. More than that; he excels at it. Continue reading

February 1, 2017

Maintaining emotional sanity when it all comes crumbling down

sanity

On Mondays I write about love, on Tuesdays dating, and on Wednesdays I write about sex. But, you’re not going to get sex tips today.

Actually, that’s not true. You’ll get ONE sex tip.

Here, you can have it right now.

Today’s Wednesday Sex Tip of the Day

Have sex today.

That’s your sex tip. Do you have someone in your life you could be having sex with today?

Great, have sex with them. It’s gonna feel awesome.Continue reading

January 31, 2017

Get rid of your job, your house, and your girlfriend to make room for something new

something new

Figure out what you want and when to walk away

I’d wanted to quit for years

In 2010 I found myself depressed, single, and working for a company I didn’t want to be working for anymore.

I worked the phones at Yahoo! for 5 years as a sales guy. My favorite definition of ‘sales guy’ comes from a snippet of writing I saved years ago from someone’s Tumblr page. Author unknown but I’m still looking.

He’s also a Sales Guy, it’s soon obvious, bestowed at birth with an intangible, infallible excess of charm and the compulsion to use it on the most proximate person to him at all times. I’m envious, as always. If he kept a blog like this it would be far more interesting than mine—not to mention syndicated at a dollar a word.

I didn’t feel like a charming sales guy anymore. My soul had shriveled to the size of a raisin. I was miserable and had wanted to quit for 3 years.Continue reading

December 1, 2016

I quit tinder in chattanooga and now I’m happy, sort of.

I quit tinder

I Tinder because I’m bored, sad, horny, and lonely

Halfway through a 6 month road trip, I quit Tinder. In Chattanooga to be exact. My plan was to drive from San Francisco to Montreal and to use Tinder and other dating apps along to way to see how women differ from state to state.

Let’s be honest – that didn’t happen. I used it like I’ve always used it . Because I was bored, lonely, horny, and sad. What a stellar combo.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve met amazing women on Tinder (SLC you know who you are). I don’t always use it to escape but that’s how I usually use it.

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