Category Archives for "Dating"
Spring time is here and while the birds are chirping up a storm and the squirrels are getting more action than you are, you're sitting there wondering why you're single. I know why.
Here are the top 7 reasons why you're single, and what you can do today to change your situation...Continue reading
Stop trying to control attraction and chemistry on a first date. Even legit chemists agree they have no idea what women want or why they like what they like.
While you can't control chemistry, you can certainly control your behavior.
Here's some basic as fuck first date (and more) etiquette that will give you the best chances of keeping her interested in you and double your odds of getting a second date...
I’m not looking for friends. Don’t get me wrong, I love people.
I’m always in the process of bringing amazing people into my life, but life is short and my time is precious. I don’t have enough time to do everything I want to do, so making new friends isn’t a priority.
But meeting a partner is. I want love, and I want sex, and I want both to be good and plentiful.
When I meet someone I’m interested in, I refuse to let ambiguity and laziness rule my life.
That’s why I don’t ask people to hang out.Continue reading
I still let fear get in the way of me living my life and meeting new people.
It happened yesterday, about 6 different times. No matter how much practice I get at approaching strangers, fear still grips me every now and then.
People can be unavailable for different reasons.
Maybe they’re not available for the kind of relationship you’re looking for. They might want casual short term dating and you’re looking for something more serious.
Maybe they’re unavailable for your kind of relationship style. Some folks need constant communication and others prefer a lighter touch.
Or they might be unavailable because they’re just not interested in you and you’re not picking up the hints.Continue reading
Ghosting is the practice of breaking up with someone without letting them know. It's the act of slowly withdrawing from a relationship, in the hopes that the other person will also feel the same way.
It's cowardly, toxic, and feels really terrible. Here's what you can do instead.
The first date is almost always something quick and easy
A drink if it’s nighttime or a coffee/tea if it’s daytime.
First dates should be low stakes and low stress. Nothing elaborate or showy. Just a simple place to chat so we can see if there’s connection.Continue reading
I’ve met some lovely people though online dating.
That’s where I met my most recent ex. She’s wonderful, we still talk almost every week.
I’ve also met some incredible sex partners online. When I was horny, I could line up a sex date in a few hours if I was lucky.
One day I’ll share my outgoing messages with you. I’ll figure out which messages worked and why. I’m sure there’s a formula for why some worked better than others.Continue reading
Roger and I spent 9 months driving from San Francisco to Montreal, exploring the United States and living in the back of my pickup. A dirtbag version of John Steinbeck’s Travels With Charlie in Search of America if you will. Great book, I learned a lot from reading it before my trip.
Here’s one thing I learned. Offer strangers something to eat or drink, especially if you might’ve parked on their land inadvertently. This will lower your odds of getting shot.Continue reading
I love saying something out of left field when I’m talking to a stranger. It’s my favorite. It’s usually to a woman, but not always. Remember, I flirt with everybody all the time, as long as it’s appropriate, and it won’t get me beat up.
I don’t want to get beat up because I’m not a fighter, I don’t know how to fight. In high school I almost got into a fight but right before the kid threw a punch, I pretended to lose a contact and started looking for it on the ground.
The kid just shook his head, it was embarrassing. I think I lost.Continue reading