Category Archives for "Dating"
I’m not looking for friends. Don’t get me wrong, I love people.
I’m always in the process of bringing amazing people into my life, but life is short and my time is precious. I don’t have enough time to do everything I want to do, so making new friends isn’t a priority.
But meeting a partner is. I want love, and I want sex, and I want both to be good and plentiful.
When I meet someone I’m interested in, I refuse to let ambiguity and laziness rule my life.
That’s why I don’t ask people to hang out.Continue reading
I still let fear get in the way of me living my life and meeting new people
It happened yesterday, about 6 different times. No matter how much practice I get at approaching strangers, fear still grips me every now and then.
I was out shooting video for my YouTube channel. I’m making a video about ghosting and wanted to interview people about their experience. Even though I had a legitimate reason to approach people, I was still scared.
What exactly was I scared of?Continue reading
People can be unavailable for different reasons.
Maybe they’re not available for the kind of relationship you’re looking for. They might want casual short term dating and you’re looking for something more serious.
Maybe they’re unavailable for your kind of relationship style. Some folks need constant communication and others prefer a lighter touch.
Or they might be unavailable because they’re just not interested in you and you’re not picking up the hints.Continue reading
I’ve been ghosted before, it feels terrible.
I’d been living in Panama for 6 months. I moved there to start a hostel for motorcycle travelers riding from Central to South America. I was working 12 hour days 7 days a week. I didn’t speak Spanish, and I had a hard time meeting women.
People said not to worry. They told me everyone speaks English in Panama and the Latinas are going to love me.
They were wrong. I was spinning my wheels and getting desperate to meet someone, anyone.Continue reading
The first date is almost always something quick and easy
A drink if it’s nighttime or a coffee/tea if it’s daytime.
First dates should be low stakes and low stress. Nothing elaborate or showy. Just a simple place to chat so we can see if there’s connection.Continue reading
I’ve met some lovely people though online dating.
That’s where I met my most recent ex. She’s wonderful, we still talk almost every week.
I’ve also met some incredible sex partners online. When I was horny, I could line up a sex date in a few hours if I was lucky.
One day I’ll share my outgoing messages with you. I’ll figure out which messages worked and why. I’m sure there’s a formula for why some worked better than others.Continue reading
Roger and I spent 9 months driving from San Francisco to Montreal, exploring the United States and living in the back of my pickup. A dirtbag version of John Steinbeck’s Travels With Charlie in Search of America if you will. Great book, I learned a lot from reading it before my trip.
Here’s one thing I learned. Offer strangers something to eat or drink, especially if you might’ve parked on their land inadvertently. This will lower your odds of getting shot.Continue reading
I love saying something out of left field when I’m talking to a stranger. It’s my favorite. It’s usually to a woman, but not always. Remember, I flirt with everybody all the time, as long as it’s appropriate, and it won’t get me beat up.
I don’t want to get beat up because I’m not a fighter, I don’t know how to fight. In high school I almost got into a fight but right before the kid threw a punch, I pretended to lose a contact and started looking for it on the ground.
The kid just shook his head, it was embarrassing. I think I lost.Continue reading
Why? Because earlier that week I caught one of my close guy friends using Old Spice.
Bro. Chicks don’t like the smell of Old Spice.
He looked at me as if I’d just slapped him and challenged him to a dual.
Bro?! Are serious? Every woman I have EVER dated LOVES the Smell of Old Spice.
Another friend was present but abstained from what was clearly going to be a very contentious conversation.Continue reading
We’re going to keep it simple today, but we’re going to make it bold. And interesting.
I love asking someone a question as an opening line. It’s gold in retail scenarios. Almost guaranteed to get a smile, or at the very least an eye roll. I’ll take an eye roll.
Excuse me, I have one question for you.
Try it next time you need something from a retail associate. Tell them you have a question to ask them, but instead of asking them your question, ask this instead.