Confidence is key. That’s what everyone says at least. You can do anything you want as long as you do it with confidence.
Fine, but how do you build confidence when you lack confidence in the first place? And what the hell does this have to do with tripling your sexiness?
Read on to find out….
Confidence Is The Ultimate Aphrodisiac
We all know that confidence is sexy.
You can do pretty much anything you want as long as you do it with confidence.
With the right amount of confidence, you can ask for the job promotion, close a huge sale, crash a wedding reception, wear brown shoes with black pants, and ask anyone out.
Do any of these things with anything less than 100% confidence and you’ll probably get a quick firm rejection. Not the end of the world, but getting rejected sucks and it takes it's toll on you after a while.
Maybe She's Born With It
Most of us are born with a little confidence, and we acquire more of it throughout our life. Some are born with a seemingly unending amount of it. Others, less so.
As we walk through scary and stressful situations and come out the backend unscathed (or a little scathed, but alive), we slowly build more and more confidence.
I did sales for 5 years and at first was scared to ask for $500. At the end of my sales career I quoted a customer $250,000 without blinking.
I'd acquired a massive amount of confidence in sales through experience. I also learned quite a bit about dating in the process.
If you're not born with much confidence, don't despair. You can develop traits, positive habits, and get into routines that will build confidence and make you into a sexy human being.
Being able to build confidence will result in more open doors, more dates, and more opportunities.
Here are 12 ways you can start to build confidence in your life today.
12 Easy Ways To Build Confidence Today
1. Make learning new skills mandatory
Pick up a new hobby, a new sport, or a new activity. Graphic design, bird watching, badminton, watch repair. Anything to keep you engaged and learning.
When you’ve learned that skill, learn a new one. Always push yourself to try new experiences and learn new skills. The more competence you develop, the more confident you'll develop.
2. Have a dead simple grooming routine, and stick to it*
Shower, shave, get regular haircuts, keep your nails clean and trim, keep those errant hairs in check, and make sure you smell good.
Don't slather on too much Old Spice, though research indicates that people who smell good have higher self confidence.
3. Dress sharp as much as possible*
No need to drop a ton of money on a new wardrobe. Wear items that make YOU feel great. When you look great, you feel great and it's obvious to those around you.
If you're not sure what looks good, ask a friend you know that has good taste in clothing, or ask the folks working at the department store. It's their job to help you look good.
4. Get active
Doing something is almost always better than doing nothing. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes ... but mistakes are a part of life. It's how we learn.
Without mistakes, we'd never get better. Don't worry about those, just do something. Get off your butt and get active -- physically, and by taking steps to accomplish goals in your life.
5. Say yes to things you don’t want to say yes to
Get comfortable with discomfort.
The more experiences you have that push you out of your comfort zone, the more you'll build confidence being out of your comfort zone. What used to scare you won’t scare you anymore.
6. Connect with people you normally wouldn’t connect with
Talk to your elders, ask them questions, try to learn something from everyone you meet. Don't be quick to judge.
At a dinner party, don’t try to wrangle a seat next to someone you know. Sit down at the empty table and let luck of the draw who sits next to you. Those people will be your dinner companions for the evening and you'll get to learn from people you don't know.
7. Exercise. Every day*
Make getting in shape and getting healthy a top priority.
The better you look naked, the better you'll feel. The better you feel, the more confidence you'll have. Vary the types of exercise you do. Jog, lift weights, play team sports, swim, walk, ride your bike. Learn to cook and do it 5 to 6 nights a week. Cooking is sexy.
8. Learn to do things with your hands*
Learn to fix something with your hands.
Learn to work on your bike, learn to draw, learn to sew, learn to chop wood. Manual dexterity will help you in bed and make you a better lover. Men who can fix things and build things with their hands are sexier than those you can't.
9. Read. A lot
A mix of fiction and non fiction and male and female authors.
If you don't have time to read, replace watching TV with reading. You’ll automatically have 1-2 more hours per day to devote to reading. You'll learn more when reading then when watching TV and you'll fall asleep faster.
10. Learn how to give touch
Take a massage class.
I wish I'd known this earlier in life. Taking a massage class will help you build confidence when touching women and it'll make you a better lover. Go find a massage class right now to sign up for. Now.
Do something good for other people with no expectation of getting anything in return.
You’ll feel good about it, and it's an excellent use of your time. The love and pride you’ll get back from having spent time helping those in need will be more than enough payment.
12. Surround yourself with people smarter and more confident than you
You're the average of the 5 people closest to you.
Surrounding yourself people who are smarter and more confident than you will make you smarter and more confident. And if it doesn't, at least you'll have more interesting conversations.
*** The starred items will directly contribute to your sexiness. It's quite possible that implementing all these suggestions at once might triple or even quadruple your sexiness. Proceed at your own risk.