a few months ago

Is your new relationship the ‘real deal’? Does it pass the baseline test?

baseline test

I’ve fallen in love a few times in my life

More if you count high school. I don’t. Puppy love. I didn’t know what I was doing back then. I still don’t but I’m OK with it now. Everything’s going to be alright. I’m at peace with not knowing. It’s freeing not to know.

My relationships all ended for good reasons. Don’t most relationships end for good reasons? I’ll have to think about that one.Continue reading

a few months ago

Does ‘no strings attached sex’ exist? Here’s what people said and 4 tips on how to have it.

no strings sex

Yesterday, I asked friends on social media if ‘no strings attached sex’ existed.

The answer was a resounding…maybe.

Just like the current state of affairs in the United States, we are a nation divided when it comes to whether ‘no strings attached sex’ exists. Can people fully detach when engaging in the most intimate of activities together? I received 42 replies letting me know.

Let’s dive in.Continue reading

a few months ago

A Pro/Con List: Asking for the date or asking for the digits.

asking for the date

“Can I get your phone number?”

This is how it’s done. Get the phone number so you can start texting. Eventually you’ll ask ‘em to hang out. Boom. Circuitous way to safely ask someone out without any risk of rejection.

It’s OK and it’s certainly better than nothing. It’ll get the job done, but it’s lazy. We both know it.

Getting someones phone number or asking someone to hang out does imply interest, but it’s not explicit. It lacks oomph.Continue reading

a few months ago

I turned down free unlimited Business Class travel because I was lovesick and hopeless

the love drive


I was completely pathetic after the breakup. Still pinning for her. She wanted nothing to do with me. “Don’t contact me for 6 months” she said.

I flew to Europe to get away. Spending time abroad would make things better. It didn’t. I was hopelessly lovesick. Co-dependant. I couldn’t enjoy my time. I didn’t sleep well. “We’re gonna get back together” I thought. Continue reading

a few months ago

How Should I Learn To Get Into Dating?

Dear Love Drive,

How should I learn to get into dating?

I have only had 3 first dates at the age of 27. Being honest (and polite) seems to disqualify me.

I have a career and the physical items down. Home, car, exotic pets even. I do go out and have a few varied friend groups. Hobbies beyond day to day chores.

I do have a life, just no one else in it.Continue reading

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